Celebrating an Engagement That Isn’t Yours

He asked, she said yes! But no, this isn’t your fairytale (just yet). If another one of your best girls just got engaged and you’re still a single lady, it’s easy to wallow in your insecurities with a bottle of wine and woes of “always a bridesmaid, never a bride.” But doing something fun to celebrate this happy time for her is not only what a true friend would do, but also might improve your mood as well!

Lately I’ve been taking some inspiration from this quote by Andy Rooney—“Happiness depends more on how life strikes you than on what happens.” If you’re focusing on all the things you don’t have that your newly engaged friend does, you will only feel worse. But try adjusting your attitude by taking a few minutes of quiet to truly be happy for her. Think about their love story and how they got to this point, all the things that fell into place for the couple to be together, and how happy their new life will be as a married couple. You might just find yourself with a smile on your face (and it’s OK to be just a tiny bit selfish about the events to come—pretty new dresses for the bachelorette party and showers, and hello, cute single cousins at the wedding!)

Here are a few ways to show your newly engaged friends how much you care and add to their excitement during this happy time!

Say it with a card.

My absolute favorite store for cards is Papyrus. They have the most charming engagement cards, such as this pop-up diamond gem, with tiny details that will add special flair to the words you write inside.

A little something sweet

Think of how much your friend will squeal when she opens this box of “Soon to be Mrs.” personalized stationery! Head over to this Etsy store to customize your own—choose from blue, pink, purple, or green—for just $22.50 for a set of 16 cards with envelopes. Bonus: these would be great thank-yous for her shower!

Send a box full of treats.

There’s nothing a newly engaged girl wants more than to curl up on the couch with a big stack of bridal magazines and let the planning begin! Cheeriodicals offers one of the most thoughtful, fun gifts I’ve ever seen—a box full of magazines and sweet or savory snacks (your choice!) The box is just $49.99 and includes Martha Stewart Weddings, Brides, Bridal Guide, and For the Bride. (Of course, if you are on a tight budget—head over to the drug store and pick up similar items to make your own box of cheer!)

So tell us—have you done anything sweet lately to celebrate a friend’s engagement? How do you avoid the “27 Dresses” effect?

About Kelsey Bjelland

Kelsey is a professional journalist, web producer, aspiring event stylist and baker extraordinaire. After taking the plunge and moving from rural Montana to downtown Chicago in 2009, she took an internship at a local bridal magazine. Shortly after, she discovered her two loves—the wedding scene and a boy from Alabama. Those experiences inspired her to launch Pearls & Frosting, a dual-function website dedicated to connecting wedding vendors to share business advice and to providing intimate profiles of those vendors to future brides. By day, Kelsey is an assistant editor for several management consulting publications, a freelance magazine writer and a self-professed Pinterest addict. She holds a master’s degree in journalism from Medill at Northwestern University.

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