For those of you who have limited space at your ceremony and venue
location(s), you have to have a smaller wedding. Unfortunately, it can be
difficult to decide who should attend and who should not. Let’s be honest –
you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but there’s nothing you can really
do about the space issue. Another clincher – you don’t have room for everyone
to bring their kids. It might seem like a sticky situation, but luckily
there’s a cordial way of tailoring your guest list. Some of you may only want
an intimate wedding, requiring a specified guest list. If you’re not sure how
to modify the list, here are just a few tips and ideas for you to consider.
**How To:** By following a few simple steps, you can easily avoid confusion and maybe even hurt feelings. Be blunt, but cordial!
* **Invitations:** Here’s where you start with the limitations. A few suggestions include the invitation list and a proper “no kids allowed” notation.
* You and your fiancé need to sit down and really decide on _who_ to invite. Pick a few of your closest, dearest friends, and invite your closest family members. This is not the time to invite estranged, distant, and not-so-close relatives and acquaintances!
* At the very bottom of your invitation or on an RSVP card, note in a very cordial manner, “Respectfully, An Adult Occasion” or you can address it specifically to those you want at the wedding and reception.
* **Word of Mouth:** Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn’t. Depending on how receptive and considerate your guests may be, sometimes spreading the word that “no kids are allowed” at your wedding goes over pretty well. Other times, not everyone gets the word. Instead of relying on one method, try both specified invitations **_and_** word of mouth. This can ease potential headaches and issues.
**Remember:** This is your wedding day, and if you only have so much room to work with, than that’s that. The key is to make sure everyone is aware of the limited space and the “no children” rule. Always be _kind, _considerate, and _firm_. Don’t let people walk all over you and change your mind. Be respectful, but keep in mind that this is _your_ special day, not theirs. So just be sure to go over the guest list, double/triple/quadruple check, and then make sure the rules are known!