6 Apps Newlyweds Will Love

You’ve walked the aisle and tied the knot, and now you’re a newlywed. Navigating your new life as a wife can be both fun and challenging (see [9 tips for surviving the first year of marriage](http://theplungeproject.com/9-tips-for-surviving-the-first-year-of-marriage)), and whether you love or hate technology, there’s no doubt that it can make certain parts of your life easier. That said, here are 6 apps that newlyweds — and really all couples — will love!

## 1. Icebreak

I had to start with a sweet one! Icebreak enables you to stay connected with the one you love throughout the day. Considered to be “the Best app on the iPhone for couples to stay close and stay in love” by Apple, [Icebreak](http://theicebreak.com/) lets you privately share sketches, messages, and photos with each other throughout the day; enhance communication and understanding with each other by answering icebreaker questions; connect with the community, and see how others feel about relationship topics; keep an eye on your relationship health with your “relationship score”; and earn date night coins that you can cash in for discounts on real date nights. **Cost:** $1.99

**Available on:** iPhone

## 2. Between

If you like the thought of Icebreak, but you’re an Android user like Michael and I, you’ll want to check out Between! Between is a beautiful space where you can share all your moments only with the one that matters most. Send messages and voicemails. Share photos to create a timeline just for the two of you. Check and plan your special days together, and set reminders for them. **Cost:** Free **Available On:** iOS & Android

## 3. Cooking Planit

[Cooking Planit](http://www.cookingplanit.com/) is a new website and mobile app that provides home cooks with step-by-step instructions to create full meals, with entrees and sides timed to finish and be ready to serve simultaneously. Essentially a “GPS for the kitchen,” Cooking Planit enables couples to discover new flavors with minimal fuss and maximum success by helping to organize the meal planning process. Featuring over 500 recipes created and tested by a resident chef, users can also filter by main ingredient, occasion, dietary restriction and type of dish, with each recipe showing a full list of ingredients and necessary cooking utensils. **Cost:** $2.99 **Available On:** iOS

## 4. Grocery Smart

Have you ever come home from the grocery store only to find out your hubby was just there as well — and he bought the same things?! [Grocery Smart](http://grocerysmart.net/apps/) is a shopping list app that helps eliminate this from happening. Make shopping lists, and share them over multiple devices with anyone you like. You can create your list using the thousands of items already within the app, or upload your own. Once you make a purchase, simply cross the items you bought off your list, and it will be automatically synced across all connected devices. Send you hubby to the store and forget to tell him to pick something up? Just add it to your list, and he’ll receive an immediate update! **Price:** Free **Available On:** iOS & Android

## 5. Fix a Fight

Let’s face it: you’re going to fight when you’re married. [Fix a Fight](https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/fix-a-fight/id376117430?mt=8) helps users navigate the treacherous waters of mending a relationship. Created by marital therapist Mark McGonigle, the app offers the same tips he gives his clients. Fix a Fight guides you through steps to help you and your partner make quality repairs to relationship wounds. Guided by the soothing and informative voice of Mark McGonigle, you can get back to where you want to be with each other. It helps you restore your intimate connection after a fight to keep your relationship moving. **Cost:** $4.99 **Available On:** iOS

## 6. Mint

Navigating finances as a couple isn’t always the easiest thing in the world. That’s where [Mint](https://www.mint.com/how-it-works/anywhere/iphone/) comes in! Named Best Finance App by the 1st Annual App Awards and TIME Magazine’s 50 Best iPhone Apps of 2011, Mint allows you to track, budget and manage your money all in one place, so you can see where you’re spending and where you can save. Open an account, add your bank, credit, loan and retirement accounts and Mint will automatically pull in and categorize your transactions. It’s safe, secure and easy to keep your personal finances organized. **Cost:** Free **Available On:** iOS **What other apps do you find useful in your marriage?**

9 Tips for Surviving the First Year of Marriage

It’s no secret that newlyweds like Michael and I, and many of you, are up
against some scary odds when it comes to making a marriage last. With the
divorce rate hovering around 50%, it’s important for us all to keep in mind
that marriage is work, and it takes some serious effort to make a marriage
last.

Before getting engaged, Michael and I lived together for a year
(half of which we owned our own home for), so we thought we knew exactly what
we were getting into when we decided to tie the knot. We assumed that we would
just get engaged, take a trip down the aisle and then just live the rest of
our lives in marital bliss; okay, we didn’t think it’d be _that_ perfect, but
you get the picture. Like many couples, we assumed the early stages of
marriage would be the easiest and the best, and that the real work part of
marriage would come later. What they don’t tell you is that the beginning is
often the hardest. And because the first year of marriage is when you set the
groundwork for “forever”, I decided to poll some experts to gather some tips
on not only surviving the first year of marriage, but also making it great.

### 1. Have realistic expectations, and see things for what they are.

We all know this by now, but life isn’t perfect. You’re partner is not
perfect, and neither are you, so [Dr. Joseph Shrand](http://www.drshrand.com/)
suggests that having realistic expectations for your marriage and a clear
picture of your marriage are key. He says, “Be able to distinguish between
external forces such as jobs and money, relatives and other friends, and the
integrity of your relationship. Just becuase you feel stress does not mean the
marriage is bad. In fact, your marriage can help share the stress, instead of
add distress.”

### 2. Communicate.

This is an obvious one, isn’t it? Yet, it can often be so hard! As [Dr.
Stephen Jones](http://www.studyskills2u.com/) told me, “Effective
communication starts with letting your spouse know what you want. Don’t expect
your wife/husband to be a mind reader.”

### 3. Be open and honest.

“You need to be upfront and honest with your spouse about everything,” says
[Catharine Han](http://www.dreamweddingwisconsin.com), a bridal consultant and
happy wife. As she mentions, if you didn’t talk about things like chores,
children and finances before you got married, it is important to discuss these
immediately. If you haven’t already, share your entire financial situation
with your spouse — bank accounts, credit cards, student loans, etc.

### 4. Show both respect and appreciation.

Author [Julie Orlov](http://www.julieorlov.com/) notes that it’s important to,
“say “thank you” and show appreciation for the little things. Make requests of
each other, not demands.”

### 5. Choose your battles.

So I know I said communication is important. However, [Dr. Mark
Sharp](http://www.aiki-relationships.com) says it’s also important to choose
your battles. “Figure out when to talk about things about your spouse that
bother you and when to let them slide. Not talking about ongoing nagging
issues can lead to resentment and disconnection, while complaining about every
little thing tends to create a negative tone for the relationship. A good rule
of thumb: if you are going to remember and be bothered by it tomorrow, bring
it up; if not, let it go,” he says.

### 6. Fight with the intent only to solve problems.

So you’re in a fight, now what? As [Dr. Jean
Greaves](http://www.talentsmart.com) explains, “It’s probably safe to assume
that we’ve all had conversations where we could use a fix-it. A simple
discussion breaks into a disagreement or gets stuck going around in circles.
In these broken conversations, past mistakes may get brought to the surface,
regretful comments are made, and blame is present. No matter who said what, or
who “started it,” it’s time to refocus and fix it. Someone needs to step back,
quickly assess the situation and begin repairing the conversation with a fix-
it.” “To do this, you need to let go of blame and focus on the repair. Do you
want to be right, or do you want a resolution? Fix-it statements are like a
breath of fresh air, are neutral in tone, and find common ground. Looking at
both sides will help you figure out where the interaction broke down, and
which “fix-it” statement is needed to begin the repairs. A “fix-it” statement
can be as simple as saying ‘this is hard,’ or asking how the person is
feeling. Most conversations can benefit from a fix-it.” “This strategy will
help you maintain open lines of communication when you’re upset, and with
conscious effort and practice, you will be able to fix your broken
conversations before they become damaged beyond repair.”

### 7. Date.

As [Dr. Tina B. Tessina](http://www.tinatessina.com) explains, “It’s easy to
feel romantic when you live separately and date each other, because every
moment spent together is special. From the moment you begin to live together,
such romantic moments are no longer automatic. Instead, much of your time
together is spent on more mundane things: doing laundry, washing dishes,
paying bills or going to work. Although this can be new, exciting and fun at
first, as soon as the initial newness of living together wears off, such
everyday things cease to feel exciting and romantic, and you may find yourself
feeling worried that your partner no longer cares as much or is as excited to
be with you.” To solve the problem, dating is key.

### 8. Have sex, and don’t be afraid to switch things up a bit.

As JP Dunbar, president and CEO of [The L Bar](http://www.thel-bar.com/) says,
“Setting the stage for a romantic bath, a long ride down a country road, or a
kinky evening alone will help to electrify [your] bedroom bond.”
“Communicating one another’s sexual needs and not forgetting the importance of
a passionate kiss will help keep the sexual relationship thriving. Sex is not
only enjoyable, but it is healthy. Research shows that sex not only relieves
stress, but also improves immunity and burns calories. So, buy a new thong,
piece of lingerie, or adult novelty toy and enjoy. The purchase would be a
small investment that you can reuse time and time again,” she suggests.

### 9. Keep your independence.

After you’re married, it’s understandable to feel like you want to spend lots
of time with your new spouse, but as life coach [Karen
McMahon](http://WWW.KARENMCMAHON.COM) stresses, “Don’t take two being joined
as one too literally. Have enough independence in your life that you always
have something to share with your new honey. Go out with friends, keep
hobbies. If you are joined at the hip, it will backfire after the flame
simmers down.” **What other tips do you have for surviving the first year of
marriage and laying the groundwork for a successful life together?** Share
them here! _[Image via [We Heart It](http://weheartit.com/entry/11100342)]_