I have to say, one of the most important parts of a wedding is the thank you cards. Normally you wouldn’t think of it as being something major, but in all honesty, a thank you card says a lot about you. It lets your guests know that _hey, thank you for taking time to come to my wedding and buy me gifts and support me on one of the biggest day of my life_. So, now that we’ve established the importance of thank you cards, let’s look at some proper etiquette for card types, writing, and sending.
What to Write: It’s a daunting task, writing all those thank you cards. What’s even more daunting is knowing _what_ to write. That’s where I come in! Here are some ideas for you to take into consideration when penning your notes of appreciation:
Make sure to mention what gift that person gave you. Not mentioning the gift leaves the impression that you don’t remember and don’t care enough to look into it. Mentioning the gift, whether it’s an item (like a home décor piece, kitchen item, etc…) or a gift card, lets them know that you appreciate it.
You should also let them know how you plan to use it if they give you money or a gift card. Say something like, _Dear ____________we are so thankful for your gift card/money, and can’t wait to use it to purchase a _____________.
Don’t go overboard with your thanks. Too much “thank you so much”es can really be obnoxious. They get the point. Say thank you in the beginning and in the end, and that’s it.
What to Use: Ok, we know that thank you cards are important, but what kind of thank you cards? Yeah, there are a lot of options out there, but you want to make sure that the one you choose is wedding-appropriate. For example, here are some thank you “cards” you do NOT want to use:
- blank, generic, plain cards
- a thank you on your wedding website (nobody’s gonna check it after your wedding)
- a thank you on Facebook (just plain tacky)
- a text message or email (again, tacky) Now that we know what _not_ to use, let’s take a gander at what we should use:
- Stationery. This is pretty much your best bet as far as thank you cards go. There are several different styles you can choose from as well, including:
- Monogrammed – super cute, especially with your new last name initial!
- Vintage style (my favorite, obviously)
- Wedding colors
- A picture of you and your spouse holding “thank you” posters
When to Send Them: Rule of thumb: the sooner, the better. You want to get those thank you cards out as soon as you start receiving gifts. But, as another rule of thumb, if you want to send them out after you get back from the honeymoon, make sure all thank you cards are sent out about 1-2 weeks post wedding. Any later and people start to wonder if you forgot them or if you care. To keep it “professional” and classy, you really, really don’t want to go any later than 6 weeks at the latest. Now that you know what to write, what to write on, and when to send your thank you cards, you’re all set! As a rule of thumb and from experience, you won’t get them all done in one day. So, set aside 2 maybe 3 days to get them all written out. Happy writing, ladies!