Deciding who will attend your upcoming wedding may seem like the difficult part, but many brides-to-be soon realize that sending out written correspondence can be a tedious task. Don’t get bogged down by the details. We’ll help you out of the invitation rut and give you suggestions to keep the process easy and fun! When to Send: – Save-the-dates: If you are planning to send save-the-dates, aim to have them in the mail 3-4 months before the wedding. Sooner is fine, too! We promise none of your invitees will fault you for giving them plenty of notice. – Invitations: Traditionally, wedding invitations should be mailed out 6-8 weeks prior to the event. However, there are exceptions. If you are planning a destination wedding, or have guests who will be traveling from afar for your big day, consider sending invites out even earlier.
When to Receive: Request that response cards be returned at least 3 weeks before the ceremony. Some etiquette experts recommend 2 weeks, but an additional week will reduce the stress of having to reach out to those guests who haven’t taken the time to RSVP. A few quick phone calls should help you to pin down an estimated headcount. Don’t forget to ask invitees to send back their response cards, even if they’re late… it’s nice to have them all on-hand. Details Matter: Be sure to address envelopes correctly to ensure there is no room for misinterpretation. If the wedding is adults-only, simply writing “Mr. and Mrs. Terry Smith” should convey the message clearly. If you are particular about who attends your wedding, consider using specific names rather than “and Guest.” This will keep the surprises at a minimum on your special day. What to List & What to Omit: Your save-the-date card is a great place to include information that will not be on your invitation. Giving friends and family your wedding website information months in advance will allow them to follow your journey. There is, however, no place for gift registry information on any written correspondence. Registry info can be shared on your website, but it’s important not to appear that you are pleading for gifts. If you are uncomfortable adding the information to your website, rely on word-of-mouth. Your loved ones will surely ask if they are unsure of what you need. Keep Guests In-The-Know: Your invitations should reflect your wedding style. If you’re planning a formal ceremony, choose elegant invites. To alleviate any concerns as to what guests may show up wearing, it’s perfectly okay to discreetly include, “Black Tie” or “Casual Attire” in the bottom corner of your invitation. Your guests will appreciate this info and won’t worry about showing up over (or under) dressed.
More often than not, invitees will ask if they have a question. Don’t let invitation stress take the fun out of your planning. Above all, enjoy yourself! While etiquette is important, a happy bride-to-be should always be top priority.