The Wine & Love Letter Box

The Wine & Love Letter Box
by: Nicole Denton | filed under: DIY, Nicole & Michael’s Big Day, Wedding DIY, Wedding Inspiration
We got a lot of great feedback about our wedding day, but one little detail of our ceremony that got quite a few really positive reactions was the wine and love letter box ritual. This was one ritual I had never heard of before our officiant mentioned it. However, as soon as she explained it to Michael and I, we were sold.

Here’s how it works: Prior to the wedding, you gather a strong wooden wine box, a bottle of wine and two glasses. Then, also before the ceremony, you both sit down separately and write love notes to each other, explaining your feelings on the eve of your wedding day. Each letter then gets sealed in its own envelope. You do not read your beau’s letter.

Then, at some point during the ceremony, your officiant explains the process, and the two of you seal the box by taking turns hammering in one nail at a time (what other excuse do you have to use a hammer during your wedding?!) until the box is closed.

You don’t open the box until your 10th anniversary (or really whatever anniversary you choose), UNLESS you hit a rough patch in your marriage before then. Either way, on the day that you open the box, you both read the letters and drink the wine, remembering how you both felt just days before your wedding day.

Cute, right? Our wine box currently makes a great mantel decoration. Not to mention, it’ll help Michael remember our anniversary 😉

Updated 8/27/11: I actually just discovered Wants and Wishes actually sells an entire Love Letter Ceremony Box Set, so be sure to check it out if you don’t want to create your own 🙂

[Photos by Jennie Andrews Photography]

About Nicole Denton
With a love of planning just about anything — from her own wedding, to bridal and baby showers, to dinner parties, and more – Nicole is the Plunge Project’s founder and former editor-in-chief. A New Jersey native, Nicole has called Chandler, Arizona home since 2013, where she currently lives with her husband Michael; two pit bulls, Shelby and Link; and cat, Kity Perry. A University of Tennessee graduate, Nicole has a bachelors in communications and a career at a rapidly-growing digital marketing firm.

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Jenna
February 23, 2011 at 11:05 am (4 years ago)
I LOVE this!! Where did you have the box made? 🙂

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Nicole
February 23, 2011 at 11:11 am (4 years ago)
I actually got the box on eBay (http://cgi.ebay.com/Double-Wood-Wine-Box-Gift-Crate-Wood-Front-Glasses-Slot-/370334157386?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&hash=item5639a2ca4a) and the decal from Ten23 Designs (http://www.ten23designs.com)

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Knox Planning – Lisa
February 23, 2011 at 8:26 pm (4 years ago)
Don’t forget to seal the letters in a plastic baggy. 🙂 It’ll keep the letters safe from the wine (if the bottle were to break) and keep the letters protected from years in the box.

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Nicole
February 23, 2011 at 8:35 pm (4 years ago)
Very good advice! Since Michael’s the one that put the final box together, though, I can’t guarantee my letters are sealed in plastic 😛 Guess we’ll find out in 10 years.

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Brandy
February 24, 2011 at 8:19 pm (4 years ago)
Awesome idea! Retweeting this post 🙂

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Nicole
February 25, 2011 at 4:33 pm (4 years ago)
Thanks, Brandy!

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Amanda
March 31, 2011 at 9:50 am (4 years ago)
Love this! I looked on ten23′s website, but it doesn’t look like they have decals small enough for the wine box?

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Nicole
March 31, 2011 at 9:55 am (4 years ago)
Amanda,

Send them a message…it’s a custom size 🙂 Just say that it’s for a wine box and they’ll know.

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Lauren @ten23designs
March 31, 2011 at 10:04 am (4 years ago)
I LOVE this!!! I am posting a link from my blog.

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Nicole
March 31, 2011 at 10:05 am (4 years ago)
Yay! Thanks, Lauren 🙂 Couldn’t have done it without your amazing decal!

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Kelly
May 28, 2011 at 9:53 am (4 years ago)
This is such a fun idea!!! Definitely something we are going to consider for our wedding. Thank you for sharing Nicole!!

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Nicole
May 30, 2011 at 10:56 am (4 years ago)
No problem! Def a really cool wedding ritual 🙂 I was so excited when our officiant told us about it!

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Casey
April 29, 2012 at 10:38 pm (3 years ago)
Absolutely IN LOVE with this idea, but I am really having a hard time trying to figure out the best place in our ceremony to add this in! What are some suggestions you have? 🙂

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Nicole
April 29, 2012 at 10:44 pm (3 years ago)
We actually put it right after the vows and before the charge/pronouncement. Your officiant should be able to help you fit it in 🙂

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Amy
July 31, 2012 at 6:27 pm (3 years ago)
Did you guys decorate the hammer? We are doing the same ceremony for our wedding in sept and have been looking for something similar to what you had. I didnt want to use a plain hammer so we considered decorating one

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Nicole
August 1, 2012 at 8:46 am (3 years ago)
Yup! One of my bridesmaids hot glued ribbon around the handle for me…made it look much more fit for wedding decor 😉

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kate
August 24, 2012 at 11:20 am (3 years ago)
This is silly and ridiculous. It trivializes the wedding ceremony.

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Sarah
September 8, 2012 at 7:45 pm (3 years ago)
And lucky you – YOU don’t have to do this at YOUR wedding! 🙂

I think it’s a great idea. Whether it’s opened during a “rough patch”, or opened up ten years later… it’s a fun thing to do, together.

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Steve Patterson
May 15, 2014 at 12:34 pm (10 months ago)
This is an awesome idea. Not sure about the wine, but the concept is totally awesome. I saw this on Facebook today. It goes in hand with a blog post I just finished about Premarital Biblical Counseling.

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Billy
May 17, 2014 at 9:23 am (10 months ago)
Where did you get this idea?? Do you know the back story to this Ceremony?? Where it originated? Etc??

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Nicole Denton
May 18, 2014 at 10:32 am (10 months ago)
Hi Billy! The idea was given to us by our wedding officiant, Reverend Carolyn Claiborne (http://distinctiveweddingceremonies.org/). I’m not sure of the history, however.

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Denise
May 20, 2014 at 8:34 pm (10 months ago)
This is ridiculous, if you can’t handle a fight and need a gimmicky “fight box” in order to make up, you shouldn’t get married in the first place.

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November 15, 2014 at 7:03 pm (4 months ago)
I would hate to be your husband, child or friend. You obviously don’t know how to have fun, be cute or sweet. 🙂 Sorry, I tried to resist but my filter failed again.

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